I went into the ring tones directory and created a sub directory and called it special ring tone and dropped a ring tone in it and rebooted the phone but the phone did not read it at all or the subdirectory so I removed the subdirectory and place the ring tones directly in the ring tones directory. I wonder why iTunes would not load them onto my phone but I use SSH and move them over there myself don't tell anybody it was probably operator error that caused the problem in the first place but the operator has not figured that era out will stumbling on to make a few more